My biggest accomplishment to date would have to be finding peace with my ex-husband after a long, painful, stressful 7-year-long battle in and out of court. Divorce sucks, I don't care if you're the one who wants out or the one being left in the dust. It sucks. And the part that comes after a divorce can only be as good as you make it.
The part that came after mine was decent for a while. The decency stopped when (a) I stopped giving in and started standing up for myself and (b) met the man I was meant to spend my life with.
For seven years, my relationship with my ex-husband, the father of my child, was as strained as anyone could imagine. We were both full of pure unadulterated hatred for one another. His name on my phone or my inbox made me physically ill. For almost two years, we didn't speak or make eye contact unless an attorney was present.
Today, however, is a different story. You can read the whole story HERE and HERE. The short version is this: We grew up and realized how stupid we both have been and the effect it was having on our daughter. I have finally come to a place in my life where I won't allow him, or anyone else, to steal my joy.
I've been asked many, many times by my close friends, those friends who have seen me through the worst and the best of times, how am I doing? How are things going? My response to them is simply, "I'm good, today. Things are good...today."
Just like the old Christian song says:
"One day at a time sweet Jesus
That's all I'm asking from you.
Just give me the strength
To do everyday what I have to do.
Yesterday's gone sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine.
Lord help me today, show me the way
One day at a time."